Dear Annie:
Excluded from the Guest List
Our grandson is tying the knot at a limited-capacity resort, and his wife has chosen to invite friends over family members, including ourselves, his only living grandparents. This decision has left us feeling excluded and hurt, despite not being estranged from him. We haven't even received an announcement about the wedding, and my husband believes we shouldn't give a gift.
Navigating Hurt Feelings
The bride's decision to exclude family while including her own sets a concerning precedent. Your hurt feelings are valid, and though the final choice lies with the bride, you have the right to feel upset. Whether to send a gift is a personal decision. If you feel compelled to contribute to his special day, don't let bitterness cloud your intentions; sending a gift is a gesture of love and support.
Conclusion
In the end, the grandson's wedding excluding his grandparents has caused pain and confusion. While the bride's decision may be disappointing, focusing on the love for your grandson should guide your actions during this challenging time.